Moving Through The Stages Of Caregiver Burnout

Being a caregiver is a big responsibility. Your role keeps a care recipient healthy and improves their quality of life. Good care can even delay or prevent a transition to assisted living or memory care, allowing a loved one to stay home longer. 

While caregiving can be rewarding and an act of love, it can also be stressful or overwhelming. Family caregivers are at risk for a phenomenon called burnout. Preventing caregiver burnout is easier than treating it. Know the signs and stages of caregiver burnout so that you can manage it. 

If you’re looking for more resources to manage your caregiver burnout, check to see if you have free access to Trualta.

What Is Caregiver Burnout? 

Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion. It’s caused by chronic stress related to caregiving.  

Anyone providing home care can potentially develop burnout. However, some risk factors make it more likely: 

• Being a family caregiver with minimal or no training
• Having little or no help from other caregivers or family
• Having unrealistic expectations or demands for your caregiving duties
• Being unsure about your role or responsibilities
• Not having control, or feeling like you don’t have control, over many aspects of care
• Providing dementia care for a loved one

Burnout is more than just feeling tired or stressed. These are some common caregiver burnout symptoms: 

• Mental health symptoms, like stress, depression, and anxiety 
• Fatigue that doesn’t get better with rest
• Getting sick often, or experiencing frequent headaches or stomach aches
• Intense frustration or anger, which may result in outbursts
• Using substances to cope
• Difficulty concentrating or getting tasks done
• Changes in eating or sleeping habits
• Feeling resentful of your loved one

The Stages Of Caregiver Burnout

Some amount of caregiver stress is normal. It’s a big responsibility. Especially when caring for a loved one, it’s natural to worry about providing good care. You might get frustrated at times. Burnout, though, is not normal. It can sneak up on you while you’re trying to provide the best care. 

Understanding caregiver burnout can help you notice the signs that you’re headed for a crash. Everyone is different, but these general stages can help you notice important warning signs before it’s too late. 

Stage 1: A Little Stressed, But Coping

Stage 1 often starts with high expectations. You might feel positive going into your role as a caregiver. But, when reality sets in, you can become disappointed. It’s harder than you expected. You’re getting less support than you need. 

This can lead to some stress and frustration, which is normal. The stakes are high when caring for a loved one. You become responsible for their well-being. You might also feel responsible for keeping them out of long term care, like memory care, if they have dementia. 

At this stage, stress is different from burnout. It comes on suddenly, in the moment. It can also pass quickly if you take a break or deal with whatever is triggering the stress. 

Maybe you feel tired, and a nap helps. A decision about care might be causing anxiety, but you talk it over with another family member and feel better about it. You feel like you have no time for yourself, so you ask a loved one to step in for a few hours. 

The first stage of caregiver burnout is simply feeling stress and the pressure of your caregiving responsibilities. As long as you are still in this stage, you can manage it. You realize your role is challenging, but you can still do it and take care of yourself, too. 

Stage 2: Serious Warning Signs

If you begin to feel caregiver role strain and stress but don’t take steps to manage it, you may progress to stage 2. In this stage, you’re not burned out, but you’re experiencing some serious warning signs. It’s important to recognize these and take steps to get support. 

• Ongoing stress. The expected stress you experience while caregiving is increasing. It feels like one thing after another, and managing it all is getting harder and harder.
• Isolation. You’re beginning to spend so much time in your caregiving role that you feel isolated from others. At first, you struggle to socialize or do activities you enjoy because of time constraints, but now you’re starting to feel like they’re not worth the effort. 
• Changing attitude. You still want to care for your loved one, but you’re starting to feel more cynical. You feel like your efforts are unnoticed or unappreciated. You may feel a little resentful toward your loved one. 
• Physical changes. At this stage, you might notice some troubling physical signs. You might be getting out of shape or gaining weight as you neglect your own care. Maybe you get sick more often or take longer to get over a cold. Your sleep might suffer, as you find falling or staying asleep harder. 
• Emotional symptoms. It’s normal to feel sad or anxious sometimes during caregiving. If you’re progressing toward burnout, these symptoms worsen or last longer. 

Stage 3: Full Caregiver Burnout

While normal stress can occur quickly and without warning, burnout is a slow process. It results from chronic stress that you’re not managing. Burnout feels and presents differently from stress in several ways: 

• Despair in your role as a caregiver
• Loss of motivation
• Mental and physical fatigue that you can’t get over, even with rest
• A short temper and outbursts
• Emotional detachment from or resentment toward your loved one
• Withdrawal from loved ones, friends, and social situations
• Frequent illness or other physical symptoms
• Hopelessness and other signs of clinical depression
• Foggy thinking, difficulty concentrating, difficulty getting even simple tasks done

Some experts refer to caregiver burnout as compassion fatigue, but this is really just one important and potentially harmful aspect of burnout. Compassion fatigue is an emotional state that makes it difficult to empathize or find the motivation to manage caregiving tasks. 

Left unmanaged, compassion fatigue can also result in poor care for your loved one. 

Preventing The Final Stages Of Caregiver Burnout

It’s so important to recognize the earlier signs of caregiver burnout. Awareness allows you to take measures to prevent caregiver burnout. If you’re worried about your symptoms or someone else has mentioned them to you, act now to manage stress. 

Here are some things you can do: 

• Prioritize time for yourself. This might mean asking friends or family members for help. There is no shame in admitting you can’t do it all on your own. Take time to manage your own physical and mental health. Exercise, get enough sleep, eat well, and spend time doing things you enjoy and spending time with friends. 
• Use respite care. Respite care exists for caregivers. It’s short-term care, often by a professional caregiver, that allows you to take a break. Respite care can be an afternoon at a senior care center or days or even weeks of care in your home. 
• Join a caregiver support group. Support groups are great ways to relieve stress, vent, and get advice and emotional support. Chat online or in person with other caregivers who understand your experiences. This can be great for mental health and coping with stress. 
• Work with a mental healthcare professional. A therapist or other mental health professional can help you if stress, anxiety, or feelings of depression build. Counseling provides an outlet for difficult emotions. It can also provide you with useful coping strategies. 

Recovering From Caregiver Burnout

There are different ways to manage burnout once you’re in that state. Any of the above strategies will help. Professional mental health care is especially important in this later stage. What you shouldn’t do is continue with the same patterns. 

Burnout is harmful to both you and your care recipient. It takes you to a point of being unable to provide quality care. This can result in your loved one transitioning to senior living, assisted living, or memory care. In the worst case scenario, you could cause them harm. 

If you’re in this state, you need a break, and you likely need professional support. Burnout shouldn’t be taken lightly. Turn to others for support, find a way to take time off from caregiving, and talk to a therapist or counselor. 

Don’t forget to check out Trualta for more resources on managing caregiver burnout. 

References

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3. Robinson, B. E. (2020, November 18). The surprising difference between stress and burnout. Psychology Today.